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Turkey Hotel Deals

August 12, 2011 - Posted in travel turkey

Now that the school year has started again, there are a lot of opportunities to take advantage of late deals from holiday companies who have dropped their prices now that the peak season has ended. Theres still plenty of sunshine left, however, at worldwide destinations from the Algarve to Turkey to Florida. Although many of us now think about taking out travel insurance to protect our belongings and help should anything go wrong, how many of us think about gas safety when it comes to our holidays? Hopefully many families have now installed carbon monoxide detectors in their homes to protect should the gas boiler fail and release dangerous gases into the home. But how many think about these dangers when travelling abroad? When booking accommodation, particularly when through a large holiday company, we assume that all health and safety regulations have been met.

Some other countries do not have such strict regulations as the UK, however and gas safety regulations can vary widely across the world, particularly in third world countries. If you are holidaying in the UK then the landlord is required by law to have all gas appliances serviced annually and you can ask to see records of this. While at home we have control over our gas appliances, including how often they are serviced, and by who. In holiday accommodation, however, the gas appliances could be badly fitted or poorly maintained without our knowledge. This can lead to gas leaks, explosions, fires and carbon monoxide poisoning, all of which can kill. Sadly, there were the tragic deaths of two children in 2006 caused by dangerous gas appliances in a holiday apartment on the Greek island of Corfu.

Once you arrive at your holiday accommodation, look for signs and you could save your life:
Black marks or stains around the appliance, or lazy orange flames instead of crisp blue flames, or too much condensation are all signs that the gas appliance isnt working properly.
Buy a travel carbon monoxide detector to take with you as your accommodation may not necessarily have one present.
Check the instructions on how the gas appliance works, as it may be different to your one at home. Read the instructions or ask your holiday rep.
Dont confuse carbon monoxide poisoning with other common holiday ailments such as food poisoning or dehydration. The six main symptoms of CO poisoning are headaches, dizziness, nausea, breathlessness, collapse and loss of consciousness

Finally, always book your holiday through an ABTA registered company to ensure that the company is compliant with all ABTA Health and Safety regulations.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    What travel operator deals with the Seray Hotel and Hotel Olea in Gumbet Turkey help''?

    • ANSWER:
      Oh well, I searched for it but couldn't find which travel operator deals with them but here are some useful websites;

      http://www.serayhotel.com.tr/eng/index.php
      http://www.hotelolea.com/genel.htm

      And here are somre critiques;

      http://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g298661-d298691-Reviews-Seray_Hotel-Gumbet_Bodrum_Mugla.html

  2. QUESTION:
    Holiday in Turkey - where can I find the best deals?
    Family of 4 (2 adults, children 7 and 8), one week the end of July 2011 (willing to obey school rules this time), hotel and flight prices, traveling in the afternoon there and back. UK - Gatwick to Turkey. A family friendy place, not an all inclusive thing, but maybe a family hotel, where we can visit local attractions and join in with the odd disco and also be able to see traditional/real Turkish life. Thank you

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      After a good search around I have found the following have the best deals:

      up to £300 off for 2011 summer holidays
      http://www.thomascook.com/?adnetwork=td&affiliateid=1793872&tduid=0910299dc0caed8ba1de91383471768c

      Also these guys are very good I have used them a couple of time myself:
      http://www.alpharooms.com/?r=TD&_$ja=tsid:9882|cat:1793872&tduid=0910299dc0caed8ba1de91383471768c

      Try them both, I hope they save you some money.

      Warm regards

      Leigh

  3. QUESTION:
    Can you get good last minute deals to turkey if I want to go in April?
    Just wondering what your thoughts are. I have never been on an all inclusive package holiday to Turkey, but had a little look for deals at end of April and they are quite expensive. At present the flights (so I am told) are becoming increasingly booked up and I am at risk of losing the offer, however I always thought Turkey was quite cheap?! Should I hold out and wait til nearer the time, or will it be near impossible getting a good deal last minute? I will have an 8 month old with me, so very important i get a nice hotel, good flight times etc. But I just don't want to be paying £1200 for a holiday that may well be less had I waited?? Should I book now or wait...please advise? Thanks very much in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      The best time for a while to get a cheap deal is actually now. You will not know about the late deals until the time comes. easter falls at the start of April and so ther will be few good deals around for then now or nearer the time.
      Travel operators are much cleverer at anticipating demand now than they were and so avoid having to sell off loads of unsold holidays last minute

  4. QUESTION:
    Turkey Hotel + Flight Holiday From Scotland?
    Where's the best place to look for this?

    I want to find a cheap, good deal.

    Its for 8 people

    • ANSWER:
      first of all, make sure you book them together. there are quite a few sites that you can search that will likely give you the best prices available. just go here: http://bookme.com/vacations.php and you will be able to compare prices on all the reputable travel sites in just a couple minutes. it's very convenient and will save you a bunch of time and money. Also, make sure you buy them online... otherwise they charge much higher fees for phone orders. good luck.

  5. QUESTION:
    Turkey - Litera Icmeler Deluxe Hotel - Anyone been this summer?
    I know its only 18th june, but if you have been since the Abacus Complex was bought out by Litera, is it a good place to stay?

    What is the beach like at Icmeler, near this hotel?

    I wanted Kusadasi or Altinkum but its sold out for my dates. Litera Icmeler Deluxe has some great deals. £499 2weeks all inclusive.

    • ANSWER:
      From what I understood, it seems that this litera hotel was known as Abacus complex earlier(which does not have good reviews in tripadvisor, by the way), but it changed this year and get renovated so nobody in the forums knows it's recent situation. I hope someone who knows its recent sit. responds.
      wish you luck.

  6. QUESTION:
    All inclusive hotels in Icmeler, Turkey?
    My boyfriend and I have a budget of £400 each, and are looking at going to Icmeler all-inclusive either august or early september.
    We'd be flying from the UK (preferably London), and would be looking to stay for a week.
    Can anyone reccomend any hotels/deals that would fall into this catagory?

    • ANSWER:
      whatever you do
      stay away from the armenians who entered Turkey illegally
      they starve in their filthy & poor country armenia
      and they come to Turkey to steal stuff

  7. QUESTION:
    I would like to know what you can see in Istanbul , Turkey in 3 working days as a tourist.?
    I will be visiting Istanbul, Turkey and i want to know what tourist places I can go in 3 working days.Are there conducted tours from hotels and what are the cheapest deals I can get.

    • ANSWER:
      I was in Turkey for 7 days in March. 3 of those days were in Istanbul. For an interested and dedicated sightseeer, Istanbul will fill three working days. The must see sights are the Aya Sofia (Hagia Sofia in some translations), the Topkapi Palace and the Blue Mosque. In addition to these features of the 'old city', any decent tour will probably include a visit to the Hippodrome and perhaps the Cisterns.

      Also of interest are the Grand Bazaar and the Spice Bazaaar in the old city. Aboat cruise on the Bosphorus is a great way to gain a perspective of this amazing city that has a 'foot' in Europe and a 'foot' on Asia. The Galata Tower.
      Personally I enjoyed the Rustem Pasa Mosque an archirtectural jewel and not visited by most tourists.

      Although you should exercise the normal big city cautions against pick-pocketing and getting short-changed by shady taxi drivers, the citizens of Istanbul are very welcoming and helpful. A whole day could be spent exploring the shops and cafes and alleys of the Istiklal Caddesi in the Taxsim area. You will find yourself immersed in the regular life of modern Turks.

      Any good hotel will be able to hook you up with a cheap tour, but if you go cheap bring a guide book so that you do miss anything.

  8. QUESTION:
    Whats the area of Oludeniz in Turkey like?
    Just booked at the Manzara Hotel in Oludeniz,it was a late deal and the only thing they had left after lots of phone calls. Looking at the website and the reviews ive seen it looks good and in a good area,me and my mate are going both 27 and we have paid for an all inclusive.
    So any infor would be nice,oh and does anybody know the price of transfers to and from the airport?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi, if you paid for an all inclusive holiday your transfer should be included ie coach; It isn't far from dalaman really.
      check out this website, you might find something on there to help with other queries:
      http://www.turkishliving.com/forums/fethiye-forum/
      Have a great holiday, watch out its getting hotter!!!

  9. QUESTION:
    turkey, Kemer????
    where do I find best deals? hotel+air...plzzz recommend some web sites
    flying from washington dc, us

    • ANSWER:
      hey instead of jumping from one travel website to the other, try http://farechase.yahoo.com it searches all websites on the net for you in one hand and so that you would be aware of any flights between those dates, plus it has hotel choice option too. have great fun when u go to Kemer but the thing is Kemer is a resort of Antalya, so u should type Antalya for the destination, plus u have to go to Kemer via Antalya anyways, the transfer companies will love to help u as soon as u get into arrivals of the airport,have fun, i ve been there once and i really enjoyed it,hope u guys enjoy it too...regards..

  10. QUESTION:
    What is the best Pay as You Go Sim to use when travelling to Turkey from UK?
    I have an Orange Contract and Orange PAYG but is is so expensive to ring back to the UK and receive calls.

    I do not usually take a phone but my son is staying at home so I need him to be able to contact me, obviously he will have the hotel number.

    Is it cheaper to buy a Turkish Sim Card or are there any better deals than orange ?

    • ANSWER:
      The cheapest way for you would be to take an unlocked mobile phone with you and purchase a Turkish sim card when you arrive.

      The calls will be much cheaper because when you use your UK Sim you will be paying both the UK and Turkey for any calls you make.

      http://www.fethiyebay.com

  11. QUESTION:
    Can anyone advise me on holidays to Turkey?
    I hvae been to Turkey a long time ago with friends on a girls holiday however i am looking to return this year with my partner.

    I have been looking on sites such as travelsupermarket.com and the other obvious sites and although they are bringing up good deals for a week the hotel reviews when i google them are putting me off.

    Im looking for a relatively quiet, relaxing holiday however want nightlife in the evening. We are looking in particular for Marmaris area. Preferebly walking distance to the beach and fairly close to the airport so that we can get taxi's there and back.

    If anyone has been there recently and can advise of any good hotels for self catering it would be greatly appreciated. Also we ae looking to go early September if that helps.

    Many thanks in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      You are right:
      armenian and greek trolls are really stupid
      they need help

  12. QUESTION:
    Icmeler - turkey - Oylum Park Hotels?
    Hi All,

    Has anyone been or know someone that has stayed in the above hotel?

    Me and my friend have booked a lastminute deal to there going in 2 wks, and are really concerned at the reviews that we've read. this is my friends first time abroad and don't want to put him off abroad forever and just want allay my fears.....any help would be appreciated.

    thanks xx

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      I have not been there,
      but, please that check that site,

      http://www.holiday-truth.com/holiday_truths/hotel_reviews/4210/Oylum%20Park%20Hotel/

      Regards

  13. QUESTION:
    Is it safe to book with holidaymate.com to turkey?
    i have found a really great deal in july 2010 to ovacik to the leytur hotel which is recently refurbished and number 7 on tripadvisor and thomas cook flight + transfers half board for £1700 i have checked other websites like travel republic and i get £1800 so i do think its good but just to be safe!

    Have you booked with them?
    any problems?
    are baggage included?

    • ANSWER:
      This site is ATOL protected which means the UK CAA recognise it and carried out checks on it.

      http://www.caa.co.uk/application.aspx?catid=490&pagetype=65&appid=2&mode=detailnosummary&atolNbr=T7268

      Just a tip, you can get an even better deal for Turkey holidays if you go self catered for example... http://www.pureholidayhomes.com/search/Location=Turkey/

      Hope that's helpful,

      Cheers.

  14. QUESTION:
    OK, this is sort of a question about Ireland, but I reckoned that Irish people might be able to help me?
    I went to Kusadasi in Turkey from Dublin last year and loved it. Next year, I don't want to go down the package holiday route, would prefer to get a flight and rent an apartment, rather than do the horrible package hotel thing.

    Does anyone know if there are any flight only deals from Dublin to Izmir in Turkey?

    • ANSWER:
      I'm from Ireland girlie & I can't even help you sorry.Why don't you try going on to a travel agents site.Falcon.com is an irish travel agent & Aer Lingus.com is an Irish air line so good luck.

  15. QUESTION:
    How Hot Is it in Turkey (Antalya) in April?
    Hi, Im looking for a little holiday for me and my 6 year old for April and have found a great deal for Antalya in Turkey (13th - 20th), but Im just worried its going to be too cold to sunbathe/swim and we're going to end up sat in our hotel room or sunbathing with a towel around our shoulders.

    Does anyone know what the typical weather is like at this time? The websites say hi's of 20 degrees, which isnt really very warm at all, in fact thats 'cardigan' weather to me, not bikini and outdoor pools weather. Can anyone advise?

    Many thanks

    • ANSWER:
      I lived in Antalya for a few years.
      Antalya around mid April the temperature is very pleasant, you can swim in comfort but like Iph mentioned depends where you come from. Temperature will be in the high 20 degrees or more, if this temperature is not pleasant enough for you than consider visiting Antalya in June when the temperatures exceeds 40 degrees plus and some times its over 50 degrees plus!!!

  16. QUESTION:
    It's been a long time Answers. I need vacation advice - Flight from London to Turkey?
    I'm going to take a trip to Europe and the first stop is London. I plan on going to France and Spain, but I've been wanting to see an Eastern European country like Turkey. Anyway, I'm searching the internet today and I find this deal for it. My friends told me to check HotUKDeals and another site, but they didn't have a deal like this. It would give me an all inclusive 7 night trip. And that would be pretty freakin' amazing. So I'm curious if I should go for it, any UK people, please help me.

    http://www.worldofdeals.co.uk/7-nights-holiday-in-turkey-at-a-5-star-hotel-all-inclusive-for-only-279-00pp

    Thanks Ty

    • ANSWER:
      Go for it..... it looks a good deal but looking at the offer it has to be booked by 15th Dec...( thats tomorrow ) so get your skates on or you will miss out !!!!!!! I love holidaying in Turkey but have not been to that area.

  17. QUESTION:
    Holiday to Turkey. Where is the best place to go for the nicest beaches?
    I've looked up Olu Deniz and I want to visit the blue lagoon but I'm told the sand is so course, you'll have to wear sand shoes. I want to visit a beach where the sand is soft, lots of places to eat. Any advice. I've been to Bodrum so don't want to go there again.

    Please only answer if you've been before.

    P.S - any nice 3 or 4 star hotels or any deals for May?
    Forgot to mention - want to stay close enough that it doesn't take a whole week to get to the lagoon

    • ANSWER:
      I can't reccomend anywhere but Olu Deniz beacuse its the nicest place on earth!

      The beach is beautiful. The sand itself is not course but there are pebbles where the sea meets the beach............on the whole they are quite smooth and you can walk over them barefoot until you get into the water. I don;t wear shoes on the beach.

      The blue lagoon is out of this world! There isn't so much a beach there, more small sandy embankments which are quite rough but there are sunbeds and parosols to hire, PLease note that unless you stay a hotel which a its own section at the lagoon, you will have to pay a small fee to get in.

      I would say that Olu Deniz is the best place to stay as everything you need is very close by. If you stay in Olu you will be at the most 5 mins walk from the beach, lagoon and lots of amazing places to eat . I have stayed in 4* Club Sun City 3 times, it has the largest pool in Olu and is at the foot of the mountain so gorgeous views whilst swimming! Sun city also has its own section at the lagoon and does provide free entrance and free transport there and back. I would try Thomas Cook for a good deal. The nighlife is good in Olu too, and Hisaronu is only 10 minutes in a taxi/dolmus and thats a real party town.

      If you wan to stay out of Olu Deniz I would say that travelling to Olu from Fethiye or Cesme wll take about 20 mins + on the dolmus. Any further away and it will become a trek (we did it 2 years on the run!) We stayed in a place called Calis one year and took over 2 hours to get to the lagoon.................now we always stay in Olu Deniz. It's perfect.

      Hope this helps

  18. QUESTION:
    Why do many Turkish people lack good manners?
    I have been to Turkey and I tried not to stereotype as there are some very nice and kind Turks, but I have seen that the majority especially in Istanbul can be extermely rude and ill mannered. Even those dealing directly with custmers at hotels and shop. They rarely say thanks or speak politely. I felt sorry that they have this great history of Othmans Empire, one of the greatest eras in history which does not match their general manner and conduct nowadays.

    • ANSWER:
      I surprised . I have been in Turkey several times and it seems that the sales persons and the ones dealing with customer service are polite and helpful. I am sure that there are rude people as everywhere else . But the majority of the ones I have seen there, were nice.

  19. QUESTION:
    Cheap All Inclusive Holiday deals...?
    I'm looking for a rather cheap all inclusive holiday at a 3* or above..for around August/September time..somewhere nice like Turkey, Portugal, Lanzarote etc..now, i know all inclusive holidays are not cheap, so no silly comments, genuine suggestions possibly from people who have been and really enjoyed their stay at whatever hotel...

    • ANSWER:
      Hey....you could try onthebeach.co.uk or haystravel.co.uk
      If you want to try put your own package together (it may work out cheaper) both the above do accomm only and also you could try hotels4u.com
      For the flights try skyscanner.net or even ryanair.com

      Good Luck ;-)

  20. QUESTION:
    hotels and travel agents?
    can anyone please tell me how i can find out which travel agent deal with which hotel i.e i know of a hotel that i would like to stay at in turkey but not the travel agent that deals with it.

    • ANSWER:
      Put the name of the hotel into a search engine and see what it comes up with. I used google when I wanted to find an hotel in Ibiza and found that thomas cook was the agent.

  21. QUESTION:
    Traveling to Turkey for vacation in a week, ideas?
    I need to get out of the country as soon as i can because too much problems i am dealing with and i need a break. I was thinking of going to Turkey because i know a few friends there and i always wanted to go there. thing is the plane will land in Istanbul and i have friends at Mersin. I am not really going for site seeing and such though it would be nice, but mostly just to experience something new. I wont be loaded with cash, might have around 400 dollars for a week for sleep and eating mostly. Should i land in Istanbul and take a bus or plane to Mersin? How much are cheap hotels in Istanbul? i would be paying half with a friend.
    Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      i lived in mersin :) i go to mersin by plane from istanbul. bus drive kills me it takes 11 hours at least. if you book early, a roundtrip ticket costs 180-220 liras (90-100 euros). if you book later you pay 180-200 euros. airport is very close to the bus station, taxi would cost maximum 8-10 liras to bus station from airport. you go by bus to mersin in 1 hr.

      mersin is a cheap city. i think 400 dollars is fine for 1 week. and it's historical..

      it's not very touristic like istanbul but certainly a nice city and has a long history.

      kız kalesi: http://www.pbase.com/dosseman/kizkalesi erdemli

      http://www.pbase.com/dosseman/silifke silifke

      in tarsus (30 min to mersin), there is the well and the church of st paul. i see he is an important character for the religion, i guess esp for catholics.also there is a cleopatra gate, which she came by seaway to meet roman emperor antonius, and a waterfall, which cleopatra used to bath.

      http://www.saintpaul.gen.tr

      http://www.flickr.com/photos/happy_jumper/1970568601/

      http://www.sacred-destinations.com/turkey/tarsus.htm

      http://www.pbase.com/dosseman/tarsus

      i dont know if you're coming soon, but you can swim in the sea, from may to sometimes even november in mersin. beautiful and warm weather. i suggest you to come in summer. coasts are nice. it's not like touristic antalya and bodrum but mersin is a nice town by the seaside... <3

      and you can go to antakya, bus is not expensive (20 liras), and the ride takes few hours, antakya museum is worthseeing

      http://www.pbase.com/dosseman/antakya_museum

      http://www.sacred-destinations.com/turkey/antioch-archaeological-museum

      i remember the mosaics were even more fabulous than those in hagia sophia.

      in both cities, the food is wonderful btw.

  22. QUESTION:
    How to smoke in a non-smoking hotel room?
    Alright so here's the deal, I'm a senior in high school, I'm going on a class trip, and I'm a terrible smoker, both tobacco and marijuana wise. The school deems that we must stay in non smoking rooms, and we have strict curfews placed on us that give us no time away from any form of supervision. So how would I smoke in a non-smoking room without being caught by the smell? I hear the fines are pretty steep. And yes I know the bad things about the addiction and what it is doing to my body, I'm trying to quit, but I can't go cold turkey like this for an extended amount of time. Suggestions anyone? Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      DONT' stop being impulsive and think about your future.

      The smoke will stink and someone will tell, or the alarm will tell. Go outside and be more responsible about things.

  23. QUESTION:
    have you ever missed a country/town so much?
    i went to turkey in july.

    i honestly dont feel at home in the UK anymore.
    i constantly think about my holiday and how much of a great time i had there.
    yeah i'm 15 and i dont plan on running away there right now.
    i want to do hotel management when im older.
    but how do i try to deal with living here at the moment.
    scotland.

    xx

    • ANSWER:
      lol...i feel for you. i'm going to brazil during the winter and i'm soo excited =] 30 celcius hahaha. i guess no one would want to come back to england/the uk after being somewhere so super! maybe you should just save up so you can go again next year :) it'll give you something to look forward to. you could even move there when you're older if you wanted to.

  24. QUESTION:
    Is this seriously for real!?
    Okay, I know this is very immature and a waste of time but one day when I was bored I decided to make a fake profile on one of those sites like myspace. A 22 year old lady from Ukraine who goes to Turkey to make more money as an escort girl because she hears that Ukrainian/Russian escorts are popular there. Soooooo once in Turkey she makes friends with other escort girls who happen to be from Amman Jordan who tell her that she can make even more money in Jordan with them. And once again she moves to Jabal Amman with her friends. Now here is the scam, to give a bunch of Jordan guys a hotel number and a name(the Ukrainian girls name of course). We make a deal on her profile and then she gives them her hotel number asking them to dial the number and ask to be connected with Miss bla bla. Now, I made like over 1000 Jordanian man friends on that profile in a matter of days with out even asking any one for a friend request!!!!! She's not even that pretty for so much attention, just a regular girl with dirty-blond hair and green eyes. I'm not kidding out of more than a thousand men only 2 spoke up, like why are you doing this to yourself? You are worth more than 50jod you aren't even worth money you shouldn't sell yourself! And one guy was like go to hell are you sick or something!? BUT my question is SRSLY!!!?? Are these guys serious!?!?!??!?!??! And you wont believe how many men told me that they have gotten better 'deals' in Amman and my price is too high....wtf?!?! Andddd a bunch of guys were like 'please sexy lady be my girlfriend!' I'm just so shocked I never knew so many escort services already existed in Amman and that so many men used them!? WTF?!?!?!? Is this for real!?!?!? Am I the one getting scammed? Are these guys serious?!?!?!

    Anyways the best part of this whole thingy was when hundreds of guys called the one hotel asking for the same woman xD the hotel operator was so pisssssed and then the guys got pissed at me sending me nasty letters through the profile......but it gets boring fast sooo im gonna delete the account soon.....

    • ANSWER:
      Well...I tihnk the first guy who spoke up was absolutely right.

  25. QUESTION:
    Holiday advice really needed - 4 adults - two with health problems - not sure where to go?
    I am paying for my family to go away somewhere in late April/early May for 10 days to 2 weeks.
    My brother 30 odd year old brother had to have a hip operation last November 2010, and is still walking with a crutch and my elder sister has Systemic Lupus. Me and my mother are fine so it had to be a country that we could all enjoy without fear of getting ill, political uprisings, etc.

    Desired:
    Lovely weather
    White sand beaches
    A country which is not too hilly
    Full board accommodation or all inclusive (my mother's desire)

    I had thought about the following countries but there are also disadvantages:
    Cyprus: too hilly - if my brother and sister want to go for a short walk somewhere this might be difficult
    Gambia - Malaria risk (though this would have been ideal otherwise)
    Florida (Fine - but no all inclusive deals for this sort of destination)
    Canary Islands (Weather may not be too great in April/May and the beaches do not seem to be as nice as those further afield -e.g Caribbean, Indian ocean etc)
    Mauritius (I went there before and it is beautiful but hours and hours away. Also my son and I had a really bad time with the mossies despite taking spray)
    Dominican Republic (Hotels that say they are 4 and 5 star when you look on hotel review sites are more like 2 and 3 star. Also seem to be problems with food poisoning in some locations - not good for my sis) - also we've all been to the Caribbean before - Antigua and Cuba.
    Turkey, Morocco, Egypt, Dubai (My family do not want to go to the first three due to present or impending political instability in those countries and Dubai does not appeal)
    France, Mainland Spain, Greece, Central Europe, Portugal and Italy (too near - we want this to be a holiday in a lifetime and it will probably be the last we take together)
    Australia and New Zealand (Too far away for my sister to travel to)
    Fiji (Too far and realllllly expensive!)
    Goa (Cannot seem to find any holidays to this area for April or May and they only seem to do Bed and breakfast during other months)
    South Africa (potentially dangerous - so my mother would not entertain it)
    Canada (too cold in April/May)
    Cuba (a possibility but I went there before and it was a bit of a disappointment)

    I really have run out of possible destinations to look at... any ideas (outside of Europe)?

    • ANSWER:
      If the health problems are an issue for you stick to a country within the EU and make sure that you have adequate health insurance cover OR at the very lease an EHIC card - http://www.tumbit.com/how-to-guides/articles/131-the-ehic-card-explained.html

  26. QUESTION:
    16 year old visiting the US from Tunisia?
    I have a few questions and concerns about this. My boyfriend is planning on coming to the US to visit me this summer for about two or three weeks in July for the first time. I (being the planner/organizer in the relationship) am doing as much research as I can on this to ensure that everything goes smoothly. So far I've told him that he needs to get a passport and a visa and I'll book the plane tickets. He'll wire me whatever money needed through PayPal (onto my mother's account, of course), so that's not a problem. His parents and my mother all agree to this and are supporting our endeavors. He's gotten the passport now, so all he needs is to apply for a visa, bringing me to my first questions.

    What do you think are his chances of actually obtaining a visa? I know he has to prove that he has "ties" in Tunisia. He is enrolled in school there, he has family and friends there, and he's a very involved, devoted soccer player for his team. He also has his own ID card (because he's required to have one for soccer). Do you think this will be enough?

    Should I write a letter of invitation to him to visit the US and stay with my family? I read that some people do that. Do you think it will help?

    About how long do you think it will take for the application to go through completely (days, weeks, etc.)?

    Should we get the plane tickets before or after he applies for the visa?**

    We're almost certainly going to be booking from Turkish Airlines, with one transfer flight in Istanbul. However, the departure flight has an 18 hour overnight wait time between connecting flights. I've talked to him about this and he said that he'd definitely just want to wait in the transit area for that time (and bring a book, iPod, money, etc. with him to keep himself occupied). It seems like an awfully long time to wait in the airport, but he doesn't want to have to deal with leaving the airport and having to get a transit visa.

    If he just stays in the airport waiting overnight, will he still need a transit visa for Turkey? There is no required hotel stay or anything, so it's not like he has to leave. The idea of him waiting in an airport for 18 hours is a bit disconcerting to me, but he is absolutely fine with it so... yeah.

    Also, his first language is Arabic. He also speaks French fluently and English (though he's better at writing in English than speaking it). Do you, ultimately, think he'll be all right on that transfer flight? The stop in Turkey is simply what's worrying me most about the flight itself because he won't have anyone he knows there to help him.

    Finally, do you have any other advice about this? Anything to help would be greatly appreciated.
    Basically I want this to go as smoothly as possible and I'm completely stressing over it. In the meantime, my boyfriend seems perfectly chill about it, so I'm doing enough worrying for the two of us. :P

    Anyway thank you so much, whoever takes the time to answer any of these questions for me. I really, really, really appreciate it, and have a wonderful day! :)
    @Roger: I've already scoured that entire site very, very thoroughly. o.o
    Trust me, I've done a great deal of research already.

    • ANSWER:
      no he wont need a turkish transit visa waiting at the airport but it would be really boring it would be worth paying for a transit visa and seeing a bit of istanbul
      as for the US visa just apply for one and answer all the questions im sure they will let him in
      get the visa first because if he is not allowed a visa he would have wasted money on the plane tickets and will lose his deposit

  27. QUESTION:
    I feel really bad about my sister PLEASE help?
    Yesterday I asked a question about how I can get my little sister to let me be friends with her guy friend who's age is in the middle because we really get along and have fun when we hang out together (but we never excluded her). Well he lives in Turkey and we go there almost every summer and next summer she doesn't want to go and took me a few minutes to realize that she maybe she really likes him romantically and thinks maybe I like him too when it's nothing like that. I really feel bad now. :/ She claims she has stuff to do for school, or she wants to something she doesn't want my mom to know about lol. Or maybe shes upsetthat he liked some of my pictures of facebook and I commented on some of his (I only wrote silly stuff) and we had a long conversation on it. She wrote something on there too about an inside joke between him and her but he hasn't replied yet and I'm getting the feeling that she thinks he's ignoring her and only wants to talk to me. At the hotel we stay at in Turkey he's friends with everyone there, his age, older, and younger. So before I didn't think it would be a big deal if I became friends with him too. Tbh I don't have alot of friends that I hang out with and she has alot. But she also shares with me the only friend I have that goes there. I feel bad but what should I do? It wouldn't be the same without her if she stayed home. :( and once again, I'm NOT interested in him romantically or anything and I'm not trying to steal him from her. I just think he's good fun to be around. Another reason we got along so well is because he doesn't speak english so fluently and I speak a little Turkish (we're American btw) I even had to help translate some things for him that she said. I feel really bad now. I didn't realize us being friends would affect her in this way, and I don't want her to think I'm a bad sister. In the beginning I thought I was the one who deserved sympathy because I hardly have any friends and don't really connect with people when she has plenty. I know better now.
    I think he wants to be friends with both of us because he invited to hang out with him too but if I tell him we should stop being friends then it would be obvious why.

    Please help? :(
    She's 13, he's 15, and I'm 17.
    No harsh comments please.

    • ANSWER:
      i think if you let her read this question. that itself would be enough to explain everything to her. just talk about all of this with her, and show her where you stand. and then she can make an informed decision about whether she wants to go or not.
      its good that youre concerned about all of this. just take all of this and direct it at her, and she'll know she has a sister who cares for her.

  28. QUESTION:
    friend fell out with me because I won't go on holiday?
    me, my best friend and other friend were looking at holidays for Egypt a few weeks ago we were going to book up but I lost my job a few days later so obviously I didnt want to book up right then and there till I got another job. About 4 days later they went to the travel agent and got a deal for all inclusive in Turkey they told me after they booked it and said I could book up when I could afford it as they got room for 3 ppl. I went there last year and didnt like it much. I said I would go anyway but just checked the reviews for the hotel and they are awful saying rooms are dirty, foods bad and drinks watered down plus a good 30-40 min walk to the centre! I told her I didn't want to go and now she isn't talking to me

    I dont see how I am in the wrong here, they booked up without asking me if I wanted to go and I don't want to pay money for a bad hotel

    Am I being unreasonable or is she?

    • ANSWER:
      hiya, she is being nasty to you.its not your fault you can't go on holiday.give her space,and let her make the next move.x

  29. QUESTION:
    An excerpt from my book? It will be confusing, but please justge on writing style!?
    (HEY I WOULD JUST LIKE SOME INPUT ON THIS EXCERPT FROM MY STORY. I KNOW IT'S CONFUSING BECAUSE IT'S SOME RANDOM PART, BUT I WANT TO MAKE IT BETTER! THANKS!)

    From Little Rock, Arkansas to Denver, Colorado it was a nine hundred and forty mile trip. Considering the lengthy distance, it would take us two days, maybe longer, to reach our destination in driving mode. That meant that the band had three days off to rest before putting on another show in Denver Friday night . . . and that also meant sharing a van with four guys all day long for three days straight.
    I had hardly spoken at all to Jayson Porter since we had left Little Rock. I spent most of my time entertaining the children in our back room on the bus, and Jay never seemed to be out interacting when I was. Despite how small the bus was. Somehow I didn’t mind. It felt less awkward without one more person to try and befriend.
    Fortunately, Chris was kind enough to rent us individual hotel rooms each night so we could all have a break from each other. He also agreed to take responsibility for the children at night so I could have a break. On our second night of traveling, the kids were with their father and I was with Wade watching TV in his hotel room. We were on his bed, snacking on room service turkey sandwiches, when Wade suddenly spoke up.
    “So what’s the deal, Kace?” he asked as he flipped through the channels on the TV. “Are you going to tell me why you hate Jay so much?”
    “I don’t hate Jay.” I said, slightly started at his accusation. I had only known Jayson Porter for three days, and I had barely spoken to him at all during the entire drive.
    “Could’ve fooled me. And probably him, too.” Wade said. I watched the channels on the TV skim past our eyes like a freight train. He wasn’t even paying attention; simply holing the down button with his middle finger as it skipped through the channels. I grabbed the remote from his hand and switched the TV off. Wade sighed and folded his hands on his stomach.
    “I don’t hate Jay,” I said again. “It’s just . . .” I faltered, unable to think of an immediate excuse. I didn’t have to ponder it for long. Wade sat up, rubbing the back of his neck.
    “Are you scared?” he asked. “Are you scared of getting hurt?”
    My first reaction was to deny it, to argue how absurd the question was. I had always been a very independent, outspoken girl with plenty of friends and a good life, but Wade’s words struck something in me that was exactly right. Although my friends had always been there for me, relationships had never been my strong suite. I had been in unfortunate guy shambles too many times to count, and I swore once that I wouldn’t open up anymore to guys. It had seemed like the best way to protect an already shattered heart. But Jay? Did I really think of Jay that way? Is that why I was so uncomfortable around him? Most of all, did I really think I even had a chance with him?
    “Yes,” I admitted, trying to keep my voice from showing too much emotion. “I am scared. Is that such a crime?”
    “If you want to die an old hag with ten too many cats,” Wade joked.
    “Dogs,” I interrupted. “Ten too many dogs. And what do you know, anyway? Aren’t you engaged? Where’s your fiancé, Wade?”
    Wade took my hand in a brotherly, reassuring way. I knew for a fact that neither one of us found it as more than just a sweet gesture. Although Wade was extremely attractive, charming, and sweet, not once since I had known him had I thought of him as more than some-what of a brother, and I knew the feeling was mutual. After all, he was head over heels in love with a woman who he would soon marry, and there was someone already on my own mind
    “Lauren is back home. She’ll be visiting me in a few weeks, for your information.” Wade said with a playful grin. I sighed and closed my eyes, feeling Wade shift, just barely, next to me.
    How will you ever find love if you never take a chance?” he asked. I laid my head on his shoulder, suddenly feeling fatigued and annoyed all at the same time. Jayson Porter wouldn’t leave my mind, and right then I could finally admit to myself. I would be lying if I said I hadn’t thought about him since I had met him; I thought about him a lot. More than necessary, in fact. But did that change anything? Jay wasn’t making any more of an effort to befriend me then I was him, so what was the big deal? Why were these feeling swimming around in my heart, and how was I supposed to get rid of them?
    “I don’t even know the guy,” I said. “And I feel like he’s perfectly content with that, Wade. I’m not going to strain myself over it.”
    “Suit yourself,” Wade said. “But you could very well be making the worst decision of your life.”
    “Or the best,” I whispered, taking a deep breath. “No doubt the very best.”
    Thanks! If you could let me know where the typos are, that would be awesome, too :-]

    • ANSWER:
      I see several grammatical errors here, including fragmented sentences. For example: "Despite how small the bus was." You have written this as its own sentence when really it should be connected to the next sentence with a comma at least. Remember that sentences need subjects, this is just a prepositional phrase.

      I really feel a lack of description here: "spent most of my time entertaining the children in our back room on the bus." and "Despite how small the bus was. Somehow I didn’t mind. It felt less awkward without one more person to try and befriend." You do a lot of showing and not telling. Describe why the bus is small, maybe you have to squeeze past the beds to get to the bathroom or suck in your gut every time you walk through.

      I also get bored with tons of dialogue (which is a personal preference) but yours could use some spicing up anyway.

      Happy Writing
      -Lapin

  30. QUESTION:
    Can anyone give me sound advice on a Turkish man I just met?
    really need someone's help to make a good decision here. I met a man from Turkey (actually he is of Kurdish descent, but was raised in Turkey). He has been in the U.S. for 3 years, residing in SC and working in hotel management. He started calling me askim and telling me seni seviyorum very quickly...within 2 or 3 phone calls. Now I am very attractive...a good deal more attractive than him, but he seems to be very sweet and has a heart of gold it seems and so that is what is most important to me. I am attracted to him though as well. He wants to move to where I live and says he will give up everything to come here and that he wants to have my babies. He wants to get married here and in Turkey and has apparently told his family about me. He is 26 and I am 27. My family is not very accepting of me even dating him so far (I mean pissed!). They say he is in it to be a citizen and have a better life plus my family has never travelled outside the U.S. and are a bit racist and ignorant (though they try to act like they are not). Should I end it with him? My gut says he is a good person, but then one thing does bother me...he offered to split the airfare for me to come see him, yet I put the air on my credit card for now. I bought travel insurance though in case I change my mind about going to see him. Shouldn't he come see me first if he is that serious? Help me decide...honest, well-thought out responses only please!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I live in the turkish part of cyprus. And there are alot of mainland turks here. The advice i will give you is this. Be very carefull. Turkish men will do and say anything for a visa,money.
      They also (in turkey) especially KURDS have a whole differnt view on how they view there woman. At first they will treat you like a queen. And then out of nowhere you are there property. They tend to beat there woman and think of it as a normal thing. They are also very controling and juelus people. If you want to marry this man forget all your male friends and nights out with the girls.
      Be very carefull. I am not racist but i say this becouse i have seen it to often. hope i helped x

  31. QUESTION:
    House Share/Landlord Problem (UK)?
    Can anyone tell me what are my rights in the following situation and where can I get advice.
    I share a room London with a friend of mine. Our last flatmates where all moving out back home so we had to find something quickly. The room we found was relatively cheap and large, but the only agreement we have is a verbal one with the guy who lives there. He is from Turkey and it is not really clear what is his relation to the landlord: he seem to be friends with him, but also has to pay the rent as the other flatmates. The landlord seem to also be from Turkey, but we have actually never met him.
    Now the issue is as follows: recently there was an outbreak of bed bugs in the flat and our flat mate contacted the landlord to organise a pest control guy to come around. I work full time so my friend was dealing with all of this: our flatmate could not tell what type of procedure will be required and we were given a very short notice. My friend stayed behind to ask the pest control person what needs to be put away from the room (bedding etc.) the guy, however was a buddy of theirs who was also from Turkey and the communication between my friend and him was catastrophic: the control guy said that he will do everything himself. As a result every single object in the room was contaminated with pesticide. I left my cosmetics, books, boxes everything lying around, and he also sprayed MY CLOTHES INSIDE THE WARDROBE and MY ELECTRICAL TOOTH BRUSH. When I returned home, the flat, according to him was supposed to be safe, but it was smelling like hell, and was definitely not safe to sleep in. If I knew this before hand I would have packed a bag of clothes and spend the night in a hotel, but this way I had a terrible freezing open window night followed with an agonising day of worry if the amount of pesticide I came in touch with will not cause long term effect. Now that the weekend comes I will spend it washing every single possession of mine (how am I going to do this with books??) I has started to be paranoid and am afraid to touch any surface in the room. In addition to that the flat mate guy insists on keeping of the two sofas and the armchair, which absorbed the pesticide the most and which probably had all the bugs in them. He says "it is part of the main furniture in the room" , my response is: I have not signed an inventory and he actually makes me store some old &*(^ in the room. I am very, very upset about the whole issue, particularly about not being informed about the procedure in detail and that all my clothes were sprayed without my prior agreement (I had to go and buy new bedding, towels, underwear etc). I have paid the rent or this month and cannot afford to move out in the middle of the month. The flatmate is very reluctant to give as details of the landlord so we can talk to him about this. I know that if could afford it I would definitely sue them for emotional damages. Help.

    • ANSWER:
      Sweet heart, put it all down to experience and move on by moving out into a new place. This will teach you to be savvier.

      You may not be able afford anything right now, but you and your friend should save hard and find another place a.s.a.p. When you find your new home be sure to have your names included on the lease agreement. Doing so will ensure that you're not going to be unfairly over-charged rent, be beneath the authority of another flatmate and you will be entitled to more legal rights.

      I would move, who wants to live in a house with bed bugs? O.o Maybe you can ask your parents (both of you) for loans and then pay them back when you can to get you both out of there sooner? I just couldn't live with bedbugs and a communication issue and the added responsibility of having to pay to replace my damaged items. Who's to say it won't happen again in the future? He's kept the furniture. >.<

      - Pepper.

  32. QUESTION:
    What to do about a negative co-worker who is also my friend?
    My co-worker is beginning to get on my last nerve at work; he's fine when we're hanging out, but it's like working and hanging out with 2 different people.

    He's just extremely negative about EVERYTHING. He has it in his head that he should be the manager of the office, I've explained to him that he only has 2 years of experience in our industry and he wouldn't be ready to be a manager. (I've been a manager in this field and you can't walk into it cold turkey and succeed very well). Our manager now has about 10 years in the field, he's a good manager, and he's good at it.
    My co-worker complains about everything, and over-reacts to most stuff. He threw a fit at a meeting, in front of a new employee, over not being "consulted" about our Christmas lunch, he didn't even have a problem with the time or date or anything, he just wasn't spoken to before hand and he felt that was wrong...I wasn't asked about it, and neither were the others in the office, one person just set it up, because no one else stepped up to do it. It wasn't mandatory for us to attend, so the ones that didn't want to participate in the lunch and gift exchange, didn't show up.
    These are just a couple of the "problems" that he's had....I could write a book.

    I have a problem with negative people and I'm about ready to bite his head off even if I get in trouble for it.
    He's been written up for his behavior in the past and if he keeps it up he's going to get fired, the manager is fed up with everyone having to walk on eggshells around this guy, because no one wants him to get all bent out of shape.
    At first it was kind of a joke around the office, "uh-oh, wait 'till "John" gets a load of this new policy, he's gonna go off". But, now it's not funny, we're all sick of him.

    I figure if I go off on him, it'll probably ruin our friendship, but I don't know how else to deal with it. I've explained to him that he's on the verge of losing his job if he doesn't chill out, and I've done it as gently as possible (which isn't easy for me, I'm extremely blunt, and don't usually coddle people to prevent hurt feelings).

    We are routinely told how well we are doing, we work in a hotel that is owned by a company that also owns quite a few other hotels, and we pretty much always out-perform the other hotels. This information gets passed on to us on a regular basis, as a group and individually, we are given regular "pats on the back", both by our direct superior and the head honchos.

    I think he has a superiority complex, he constantly belittles other employees (mostly, to me in private conversations), yet when he has done something wrong, he freaks out if he gets called on it. Even when it's minor: "hey "John", did you move the garbage can?"

    Any insight would be awesome!

    • ANSWER:
      You know the guy is toxic, yet you want to keep him as a friend. Why?

      When you have reflected on this enough, and you know the answer (as I am sure you really do), then you will know that it is time to move on from the relationship.

      I know the type of person you are talking about, I have had to work with them, thankfully on rare occasion. They are so full of negative energy that they suck any positive energy out of anyone they associate with.

      This may sound harsh, but my answer is not to associate myself with them - ever. Not on the job, not off the job, never. Period. Again, it sounds harsh, and I am sure that some people have even criticized me for it.

      But because I refuse to let the negative energy from these people to fill my life space, I don't have the significant stress of having to combat the toxic behavior that they care with them. I can tell you that whenever these peoples names come up, I ALWAYS here stories about how negative they are, and how it was so awful and painful just to sit by them and listen to them spout their hate. So I don't feel bad at all that I exclude these people from my life - on purpose. I am so sensitive about this, that when I see these people coming anywhere close, I will go out of my way to avoid them, and when I absolutely can't avoid them (such as we have a meeting we both attend), I will sit on opposite ends of the room.

      Again, sounds harsh? It might be, if you think that these type of people are, somehow, redeemable. To me, however, these people exhibit sociopath behavior that is way out of line of normal behavior, and I am not a professional mental health professional, and I will not ever be able to cure them. Having said that, just as you avoid people with communicable diseases you can't cure, my personal philosophy is to avoid these toxic people at all costs. Their toxic behavior can't be cured, and your association with them will wear off on you, or you will spend FAR to much of your energy just warding off their toxic behavior.

      So the best alternative, even if it might be painful, is to sever the relationship. You have nothing to gain from it, and much, much to loose. Life is far to short to have the life energy sucked out of you dealing with a person who exhibits scocio-pathic behavior.

      The good news for the rest of us? These people are surprisingly rare in the human population. The vast majority of people are either really outgoing, or exhibit 'live and let live' behavior that make 99.99 percent of all human interaction either very pleasant or at least tolerable.

  33. QUESTION:
    why is it so expensive to go to Spain?
    I want to book up in January for 2 weeks in Magaluf for the end of August, but everywhere Iv checked is SO expensive, Iv checked places in Greece and Turkey and it is quite cheap at less than £400 for 2 weeks whereas Magaluf is at least £600 (and that isn't even in the best area). I want somewhere close the the night life.

    I went to Faliraki this year for 2 weeks in August and it only cost £360 p.p and we booked it November last year, so why is it so expensive to go to Spain? Im going with my boyfriend and our 2 best friends and we have our heart set on Magaluf, I don't want to fork out nearly £4000 (hotel and spending money) between me and my bf just for an average hotel nowhere near the city centre and having to pay a fortune for taxi's etc..

    do you think we are better off waiting for a late deal? Also does anyone know any reliable places to book from?
    maybe because I can't afford to go to america!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I'm both budget a luxury traveler. I have been in NYC and Spain as well. I can suggest you to book with RoomsNet. Because as a member i always get lot more benefits from them and very cheap.

  34. QUESTION:
    What alternatives are there for methadone withdrawal and how long do the last?
    I have been on about 30MG of methadone (prescribed) for close to 6 years now. I broke my back while in the military and in an effort to avoid surgery I see a pain management doctor. I have compressed nerves and a good amount of nerve pain associated with the condition (spondylolithesis grade 3) and the methadone has been a life saver because I can live a close to normal life and still be semi physically active. Without any pain meds I would have to resort to a major spine fusion that would begin the start of many times over being cut on. I just recently lost almost a whole bottle of methadone while out of town at a hotel and have not been able to recover it. My doctor's office, although they do believe me because I have been as responsible as I can be while on this stuff), they told me that they cannot replace or offer an alternative for lost or stolen meds under any circumstances. So, I am left with the prospect of withdrawing from methadone "cold turkey" and I am absolutely feeling like my world is ending. I am on day 3.5 of going without and it only keeps getting worse. I just about cussed out my doctor and accused him of being irresponsible knowing that I would be stopping cold turkey after being on this stuff for 6 years, not too mention the fact that the pain meds keep me being able to function normally and stay on my feet for long periods of time. I understand policies but I have been a responsible patient with a track record of using any extras prior to filling new scripts! I cannot sleep even a little and have not slept longer than 20 minutes in the past 3.5 days and I cannot function normally at all. My only current options are to deal and have my prescription filled at the normal interval in 24 days.

    What options do I have? Can I go to a methadone clinic and explain this to them or explain my dependence and get these withdrawls to go away and to resume normal physical activity?

    • ANSWER:
      Watch the documentary called _The Secret_ (2006). Here's a description:

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Secret_(2006_film)

  35. QUESTION:
    A romantic getaway - a question for the ladies....?
    Hi all :)

    I took my girlfriend away to cuba in March for 2 weeks and we loved it.

    My plan was to take her away again in October, maybe somewhere like Turkey or Egypt for 10 days,

    She has always wanted to go to New York and i have found a deal to go from London to there for 8 days for 1000 pounds, flights and hotel.

    BUT - i cant really do both trips.

    If i book the New York trip, i want it to be a surprise.

    If it were you, what trip would you rather do?

    as need to pick and book 1 today :)

    thanks

    x

    • ANSWER:
      if she wants to go to new york, take her to new york. you two can always go somewhere else later.

  36. QUESTION:
    I don't want to be hurt anymore!?
    I am really feeling this guy and I live in Cleveland he lives in Atalanta I am flying down to be with him for 4 days. Now the problem is I talk alot and he don't, I am starting to feel that I made a mistake by booking this flight I am felling like he has no interest in me anymore. I am afraid to ask him so please tell me should I just go to Atlanta and see how it goes from there or should I ask him how he feels about me and deal with the answer? And I still go to Atlanta and have fun because my ticket and hotel is already paid for? I can't stop thinking about him everytime I sign into Yahoo and see him online I go cold Turkey and normally wait to see if he notice me first.I never know what to say to him anymore before we actully spent time together I had alot to say now I am speechless.
    Sorry to I didn't mention that 3 weeks ago he visted me.And I am also in a wedding on the 21st also in Atlanta.So he is not the only reason I am going there.

    • ANSWER:
      Have a serious talk about how you both feel. Then take care of everything from there. :)

  37. QUESTION:
    can you recover from meth?
    My boyfriend has been addicted to every drug, been in & out of rehabs to many times.. he will stay clean maybe 3-6months then find a new drug.. he is done with herion thank god took him 7 times he flatlined & rehab before he stopped. He has now moved to meth... he dosent like it & knows his body cant keep up he works 14hr days..... but we where about to buy a place i dont do drugs i hate them but have stuck by him through so much, I explained for the last 3months time to grow up he cannot move in with me till he is clean....... he wants to get married start a family but he just finally stopped cold turkey cause he had 3days off. but he is not the same he is very rude & mean to me cant deal when i cry cause iam so afraid he will die... he says i need to chillout cause this is hard enough for him, he seems heartless going from the person who cant live without me to its like he hates me.. iam lost at what to do he wont go back to it he cant he know this but he is grumpy when withdrawl before this is lack of emotions, I know he needs therapy & help to live a sober heathy life.. I have wanted to tell him he has to go to therapy 2times a week I have setup & paid for. I have alot of my own $ but I will not allow him to have cash, he shares one bank account with me to regulate his spending, he has enough food & wont give him more than 10 for lunch he has ruined his body motor skills, cant ride a bike, twisted ankle walking. I dont have to work for now my main focus was to get him on the right path & help... he says he wants it he wanted to stop thats why he waited to tell me but why is he so mean to me now Iam the one who feeds him gives him shelter(put him in hotel till he is clean) he has been sleeping for days but has to work gets off eats & sleeps but dosent see that i have given so much of myself my time & my $ to keep him safe, will he ever love me like he used to, we where fine but he got depressed i can tell when he is going to use the day or even hours before. This is deppressing me does he still really love me & is this part of withdrawl? I know we have alot to work on simple things like cleaning up after yourself or being clean atleast put dirty clothes in basket not everywhere.. I can handle this but like i say worst fear him going back to drugs I dont blame myself, cause i had to leave him in june & after i left he lost his job & was using meth stealing & getting in trouble, i have come back but will not be around him till he is clean...... i just want to know will he ever love me how he did & is his withdrawl atittude with me cuz he is frusterated.. iam just lost
    help
    well he has been to every rehab & proffessional help, for yrs around 15-20 plus they have ranged from most expensive ones to crappy one... he uses cause his fam. is broken they have spent a fortune on his shit but he say he has to stop or he would rather die then living in hotels.. He really does want it but at same time feel stuck catch 22 with work & cant lose his job or his mom will be disappointed plus makes him feel good about himself & bonus of him being so busy he has no time to be boared to use. I hate not being with him but i dont like who he is high scarey comming down he is mean, harsh. He know hes had it with drugs but no support.. i do question when he is comming down if he loves me or does he not have that emotion or does he have 2 many odd feelings
    i have known him since i was 17 iam 29 now so yes i have seen him sober after 90 of rehab spent months together so i know the difference
    he works & stays at hotel cause he cant stay with me.. he has learned to take care of himself, all guys need alittle help but he is going to die if he dosent stay clean this time, he has been a good friend for along time too...... yet like everyone else Dr. you want me to turn my back on him let him die & live with it, his mom helps him have a place he is beyond rehab what does it take besides his own will........... to change & you know how emotionally that effects people that kind of dealth, well i do even worse.... so he dies & i will not just heal with time, trust me been 8yrs since lost someone closer i think of it everyday & yes have had any therapy u can think of

    • ANSWER:
      A person hooked on meth needs more of it to avoid feeling mean, angry, and depressed. The mood problems can last for months, or fade away over a few weeks - its not easy to predict. The outlook is not good if he is not willingly participating in some type of therapy. He probably has it way too easy with you taking care of him. There is no incentive for him to do anything more than he is presently doing. There isn't even any incentive for him to treat you nicely. If he has been addicted to one thing or another since you have been together, you may not have ever even seen who he really is. He may just be using you to take care of him. The only way to find out is to cut him loose and see if he returns someday without a drug dependency. Maybe the question to ask is whether he loves you or drugs more - he hasn't needed to make this choice because you keep supporting him. It may be very difficult, but the best solution for everyone may be to cut off further contact until he learns to become responsible for himself.

  38. QUESTION:
    Should I continue to see him? I think this is a test from god?
    This week I start wearing my cross, and plan to go back to catholic church starting tomorrow, hope to do RCIA, I start learning about things in the church and just researching being very positive well, I go to the club earlier this week, I didnt want to go, it felt wrong for me, I just went for my friend and it was not a big deal but the whole time im there im thinking about how i shouldnt be here and im not in the mood to dance or anything and the first time ever a guy comes up to me asking about my self, asking for my number likeing me, dancing with me and being so kind, i hang out with him the next day, he wants to have "fun" (sex basically) and hes so kind, but i dont think this is right, it feels like a test he comes after i plan to change and learn and want to serve god and be good but he comes along, what should i do, i dont want to have sex with him but hes the sweetest and very interested in me, ( i know if he really interested he will wait but should i even mess with him? last night he wanted to take me home but kept wanting to hang out and hes like why(it was 4 am in the morning) and i keep saying no im tired hes wanting to get a hotel (he kept saying not like that i know it sounds wrong, stop thinking the American way (hes from TURKEY) and hang out more when i hung out with him already for 4 hours saying i could of been with my friends but your more important. This is a test i believe and i need advice so bad please help.
    I'm 18 sorry about the grammar, i was in a hurry
    Thank you everyone. The reason i bring god into it is because of my situation of how im now for the first time in my life want to change and become faithful to my religion. Never have someone came at me in this way so im confused im not going to sleep with him probably because I dont even know him and hes creepy and pusy. Yes i use my instincts but i wanted input in the religion view,Thank you

    • ANSWER:
      You should probably smoke some pot first, then decide.

  39. QUESTION:
    What do you really think about Kurds and kurdistan?
    Right I will start off with a bit of info.. and yes am a kurd myself.
    I just read through the questions regarding kurd, turkey, iraq and bla bla bla..

    There are aroung 40 million kurds spread around the world, mostly in northern iraq, turkey and iran.

    I will just start off by saying, I would never dare to step into any part of iraq as I fear for my life, however you can go to northern iraq (kurdistan) without fearing for your life.. which is why many of the well off arabs move into hotels in erbil. now something that cought my mind is that turks seem to think that if the kurds in northern iraq became its own nation, then the kurds in northern iraq will somehow deal with terriorists etc etc... NO, just no.. believe me the islamic kurds have thier own group and they were a candidate in the elections this year, but they lost becuase we know that religion plus goverment is never any good. also I personaly know many many christian and jewish kurds that live in north iraq, they have religious buildings (church) and the local tv channel puts on special tv shows every christmas.

    I belive the main reason the KRG has not put enough pressure on weastern nations is due to economical fears, at the moment most of northen iraqs business is linked to turkey and arab nations aswell as iran.. if we seprated, we will be very limited to any resources from these countries.

    Another reason would be, if we separated turkey will invade within a week guranteed and we all know that, and although PKK is regarted as terrorists, in my opinion thats wrong, there are almost 20 million kurds in turkey.. thats a lot of people, turks up to this day didnt give kurds any rights, such as speaking in their own language, wearing their clothes, and many more cultural issues. PKK fought back, think of it like this, your a man.. and your kids are being mistreated etc etc what do you do? seek revenge.. now put this into a bigger scalle.. PKK being the father.. and the kurds in turkey being the kids.. all their doing is pretecting their people. they may have gone wrong in the past, but I don't blame them.

    I would like to know your views. and please don't start with pkk terrorist he kill me i no like, educational views only please!

    If your wondering where north iraq is or want to see what it looks like, whatch the video below.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3ScGOX-cy4

    This is the current goverment in north iraq
    http://krg.org/e.asp

    http://www.kurdishaspect.com/doc031310BB.html

    • ANSWER:
      hi i am a kurd whos parents were born and raised in russia(yes there are kurds in russia)

      i think the west sees us as another semetic race but they dont realize that we are an aryan race

      i believe we are strongly related to armenians and georgians

  40. QUESTION:
    A good place to go on holiday for a young couple?
    Me and my girlfriend are both 18, and we wanted to go away somewhere nice in the summer. We aren't made for money, we were looking to spend roughly £400 on flights + hotels and we're expecting to have to get a package deal. We've looked at greek islands, but it's hard to find one we liked that was cheap enough without having to pay all in one go, rather than doing a deposit. We didn't want anywhere too Benidorm-esque, and we're trying to avoid tacky places like all the Spanish Islands and Turkey. We were looking for somewhere with a beach, but maybe a town too, so we have the mix of tranquility and liveliness. So basically, a tasteful foreign holiday that we can pay a deposit for that shouldn't be more than maybe £430 pp?

    • ANSWER:
      The thing is that cheap is tacky so...

      Check packages to Morocco and Tunisia. Because of the exchange rate your 400£ will give your more than in a country with the Euro as currency.

  41. QUESTION:
    16 year old visiting the US from Tunisia?
    So I realized that I put this inquiry in ... well, not the best category before. Therefore I am reposting it in what I think to be a more relevant category :)

    I have a few questions and concerns about this. My boyfriend is planning on coming to the US to visit me this summer for about two or three weeks in July for the first time. I (being the planner/organizer in the relationship) am doing as much research as I can on this to ensure that everything goes smoothly. So far I've told him that he needs to get a passport and a visa and I'll book the plane tickets. He'll wire me whatever money needed through PayPal (onto my mother's account, of course), so that's not a problem. His parents and my mother all agree to this and are supporting our endeavors. He's gotten the passport now, so all he needs is to apply for a visa, bringing me to my first questions.

    What do you think are his chances of actually obtaining a visa? I know he has to prove that he has "ties" in Tunisia. He is enrolled in school there, he has family and friends there, and he's a very involved, devoted soccer player for his team. He also has his own ID card (because he's required to have one for soccer). Do you think this will be enough?

    Should I write a letter of invitation to him to visit the US and stay with my family? I read that some people do that. Do you think it will help?

    About how long do you think it will take for the application to go through completely (days, weeks, etc.)?

    Should we get the plane tickets before or after he applies for the visa?**

    We're almost certainly going to be booking from Turkish Airlines, with one transfer flight in Istanbul. However, the departure flight has an 18 hour overnight wait time between connecting flights. I've talked to him about this and he said that he'd definitely just want to wait in the transit area for that time (and bring a book, iPod, money, etc. with him to keep himself occupied). It seems like an awfully long time to wait in the airport, but he doesn't want to have to deal with leaving the airport and having to get a transit visa.

    If he just stays in the airport waiting overnight, will he still need a transit visa for Turkey? There is no required hotel stay or anything, so it's not like he has to leave. The idea of him waiting in an airport for 18 hours is a bit disconcerting to me, but he is absolutely fine with it so... yeah.

    Also, his first language is Arabic. He also speaks French fluently and English (though he's better at writing in English than speaking it). Do you, ultimately, think he'll be all right on that transfer flight? The stop in Turkey is simply what's worrying me most about the flight itself because he won't have anyone he knows there to help him.

    Finally, do you have any other advice about this? Anything to help would be greatly appreciated.
    Basically I want this to go as smoothly as possible and I'm completely stressing over it. In the meantime, my boyfriend seems perfectly chill about it, so I'm doing enough worrying for the two of us. :P

    Anyway thank you so much, whoever takes the time to answer any of these questions for me. I really, really, really appreciate it, and have a wonderful day! :)

    • ANSWER:
      A lot will depend on his family's financial status and their standing in Tunisia. To US Consular officials, he basically has to prove he isn't a risk to overstay his visa. For an adult visitor from countries that the US has a restrictive entry policy like Tunisia, they will need to show bank statements, proof of property or business ownership, proof of a good job, etc.. Since your boyfriend is only 16 and in school, he most likely doesn't have that type of documentation and will need to show more than just enrollment in school and being a member of a soccer team.

      I just recently helped to obtain visas to the US for two people to attend a business conference in the US who were from a country with a restrictive US entry policy, I was told by consular officials that in addition to required documentation, to bring any and everything to their visa interviews that they could provide to help prove their ties to their home country. Letters of Invitation from you and your parents would be helpful and probably required, but he'll need more than just the letter and proof of school enrollment and being a member of a soccer team. You or he should call the US Embassy in Tunisia, and ask exactly what he needs to bring to his interview as a minor. Every embassy is different and some can be much tougher than others, bring more than what they ask for.

      You shouldn't buy any plane tickets until his visa is approved unless you buy refundable tickets which can be very expensive, although you may need to show the exact dates of his travel.

      Except for the long layover in Istanbul , he should be fine there, especially since he speaks three languages. Good luck.


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